Self-Leadership

This whole course is built around one idea: you lead yourself. Not just through the next twelve weeks. Through your life. Every day.

Nobody can do this for you. Your life is more unique than you probably realize, and so is the road you've traveled to get here. No one else has walked it, and no one else can see it from where you stand. So no one is in a position to lead it but you. That job was always yours.

And I'm not here to lead you or teach you. Think about what you're actually doing in this course. You're remembering. You're remembering what you already know but have forgotten, or what you can reach on your own through your direct connection to Source. I can point. I can suggest. I can walk alongside you and say "look at that." But the steps are yours alone.

So what does leading yourself actually look like?

Leadership has a structure. It doesn't matter whether you're leading a company, a platoon, a family, or yourself. The structure is the same, and it's a circle, not a line.

It starts with vision. What is my outcome? What am I actually after here?

Then strategy. Given that outcome, how do I best get there?

Then implementation. Actually doing the things the strategy calls for, not planning to do them.

Then feedback. Am I on course? Is this working? And just as important: is the vision still right? Is the strategy still the best way? Am I actually doing the work, or just telling myself I am?

Notice what feedback actually is. It's awareness. You can't assess what you aren't aware of, and you can't adjust what you haven't noticed. The practice of feedback is the practice of awareness.

And the quality of the feedback depends on where the awareness is coming from. You can look at your week from Meta-Awareness, which is honest and useful and a big step up from not looking at all. But Meta-Awareness is still the mind looking at itself. It's still inside the Stories, so it grades your week by the Stories' standards, and it has a stake in the answer.

Divine Awareness doesn't. From there you can see the Stories without being inside them, above the weather, where the whole thing is visible at once. That feedback is always more on point, and a lot more powerful, because nothing in it is defending anything.

And then back to vision, with what you've learned.

That's the circle. Vision, strategy, implementation, feedback, vision again. It never stops, and that's the point. As you grow, your vision grows with you. The strategy changes. The daily activities change. Feedback is the part of the circle that keeps the other three honest. It's the ongoing work of noticing what's working and what isn't, and adjusting.

If you've ever set a goal, charged at it, and quietly abandoned it a few weeks later, odds are the circle was broken somewhere. Usually at feedback. And a breakdown at feedback is almost always a breakdown of awareness. Nobody was looking.

Which brings me to accountability.

You will get out of this course what you put into it. And in the end, there is only one person who can hold you accountable, and that's you. Not me, and not the class.

But here's the thing. Holding yourself accountable is a whole lot easier when someone else is standing next to you while you do it. So get an accountability partner. Get two if you can. And use them every day. A quick text. "Did you do your practice today?" "Did you?" That's enough.

Do yourself a favor and make sure at least one of your accountability partners is in this class with you. The changes you're about to go through are specific to this work, and someone who's going through the same thing will understand what you're talking about without you having to explain it. Your spouse or your best friend may love you dearly and still have no idea what you mean when you say you caught yourself in C2 three times before lunch. A classmate will.

One last thing, and it's the most important one.

The outcome here is not a destination. There is no finish line where you arrive, dust off your hands, and declare yourself done. You'll still set outcomes along the way, and reach some, and let go of others when the feedback says so. That's the circle doing its job. But the outcome all of those live inside is the journey itself. A life lived on the journey. That's the thing that makes all the difference.

And the journey is this: you fall asleep, you wake up, you return, and you live from C3, on purpose, for as long as you can. Then you fall asleep again, and you wake up again, and you return again. Over and over. For the rest of your life.

That's the practice. So lead yourself through it. Nobody else can.

Bring this question to our first meeting: where in your life are you leading yourself right now, and where is your conditioning doing the leading?